Tuesday, November 18, 2008

PABLO BANILA is Paolo Bantolo

for those who doesn't know any single thing about this guy.. please read!!


The Real Deal about Pablo Banila

By Bianca Consunji
Philippine Daily Inquirer

Last updated 01:03:00 11/15/2008

NO, he’s not a cyber-stalker. Or a group of psychology students doing a project. Or the government in disguise. Pablo Banila is a real person, but he’s not the crazy lowlife that people thought he was.

When the first Pablo Banila article came out in 2bU two weeks ago, we were swamped with hundreds of letters and blog comments from readers. The sentiments expressed in the mail were varied; they ranged from “Pablo Banila gives me the chills too,” to “He’s a psycho who not only views my Multiply site, but Friendster as well,” to “He’s actually a genius who was just misunderstood.”

Most of the readers were curious about his identity and wanted to know who he was, while a few thought an article about him was a waste of precious newspaper space. “Argh, you gave him more attention!” said a friend, wringing his hands. Another said, “Unbelievable, you made him famous! But in any case, he still gives off bad vibes and he’s still flooding my viewing history page with his gazillion accounts.” A blog reader was more blunt, saying, “Big deal. Slow news day?”

But in either case, Pablo Banila certainly caught your attention—and apparently, the article caught his too, because he e-mailed 2bU to give the real deal on his identity. He had explained his intentions in a UP Multiply blog at http://yoopee.multiply.com/journal/item/4805, but only a handful of internet users knew about it (compared to the millions of sites that he “visited”).

Pablo Banila—Paolo Bantolo in real life—has been called many names in the past couple of months, and a lot of them weren’t too nice. “Creepy” was the first thing that came to mind when Multiply and Friendster users first saw the avatar that showed a guy with matted chin-length hair and a sign that flashed, “Yes, Pablo Banila has a crush on you hahahaha! That’s why he viewed your homepage, cute nun!”

The reactions that the avatar elicited were interesting. Initially, people truly believed that the mysterious Pablo Banila had a crush on them, gender notwithstanding—until they visited his site and realized that they were duped.

“Before I opened up a guestbook, there were three general reactions from three kinds of people,” said Bantolo in an e-mail interview. “First, from the genuinely curious—people asking me if they do know me; in other words, people who did not bother reading my profile, the naked confession of everything I am.”

He added, “[The next were] from the genuinely infatuated—schoolgirls and baby boys telling me that I can be their boyfriend anytime! The rest were people with a sense of humor. Interestingly, most of my most passionate haters honestly believed that I had a crush on them until the grand opening of ‘Pablo Banila’s Never-ending Guestbook Party.’ [Then] they found out it wasn’t only them.”

The truth is, Pablo Banila never really visited every website where his avatar appeared—his bots did. An anonymous reader who identified himself as a retired hacker explained, “Pablo Banila actually is a programmer who uses a program called ‘web crawler.’ Web crawlers were originally used by search engines such as Google and Yahoo to automatically browse web pages on the internet. [This is done so they can] save the data on their database and make an index list of the web pages on the Internet.”

The reader added, “This is all done using a program. A program with a standard DSL connection can browse 10 sites every second, 600 sites every minute and 36,000 sites every hour—roughly 864,000 Multiply sites every day.”

Others who were already in the know admitted that he was a computer genius, if only slightly off his rocker. News that he came from top schools (Bantolo graduated from the Philippine Science High School and went on to study Computer Science at the University of the Philippines Diliman before transferring to New York University; he is currently a graduate student at California Riverside) only fueled the speculations about his being a crazy genius.

Others expressed their admiration and marveled at how he was able to pull off the scheme; others, like Multiply user “emocantbevanity” said, “He’s such a weirdo … why can’t he just get a life or something? Is he that much of a genius, that’s why he became a weirdo? Oh well, moral lesson—don’t be a genius and learn to socialize with other people so you wouldn’t become the country’s biggest weirdo!”

“I never thought of my viewing activity as stalking,” Bantolo said. “It was casual web surfing. What made the difference was my classic welcome message that penetrated the unawareness of the unspoken hope the viewing history promises in an avatar of a Lesbian in Shining Armor. I can honestly say that I wanted to meet new friends, and, ultimately, build a bridge of chance towards my one true love.”

According to Bantolo, he chose Multiply and Friendster “for the high demographic of Filipinos. And because I have not tried making new friends in other networks—but I will! Pretty soon!”

He added, “I wish I could click on millions of headshots for hours in a day, for that would’ve been like playing my favorite game, Counter-Strike; but that’s just impossible in my already inhumane schedule as a working student.”

And as for stalking—as soon as it was established that the only pages “Pablo Banila” visited were the homepages of the sites, which are essentially open to public viewing (as Multiply and Friendster have contacts-only lock options)—his viewing activities can hardly be counted as harassment.

Multiply user “agnestherese” said, “Pablo Banila is hardly a stalker. He only views homepages, not blogs or photos. I think that those who make such a big deal out of it, more specifically all the hate blogs, are self-centered or maybe just hurt when they found out that Pablo Banila has a crush on them … and everyone else.”

“Public domain is public domain,” Bantolo explained. “If they felt harassed in any way, it was because I kept exercising my right to view their public profile.” He further attributed the public’s fear and irritation to his “scarecrow headshot.”

He said, “People read about accusations, libel and death threats against me written on my guestbook. I am hated in exactly the same way other human beings discriminate against blacks, Muslims, and homosexuals.”

Bantolo added, “I performed the same routine using stereotypical images of innocence (young, attractive and female) at the same duration and received virtually no reaction.”

Actually, the entire issue is moot and academic, as “Pablo Banila” has already retired and given up his homepage-viewing days. But many users, unaware of what happened, remained in the dark for the past few weeks. As a final note, Bantolo quoted the California Penal Code’s definition of stalking:

Any person who willfully, maliciously, and repeatedly follows or harasses another person and makes a credible threat with the intent to place that person in reasonable fear for his or her safety is guilty of the crime of stalking.

“Credible threat” means a verbal or written threat, including that performed through the use of an electronic communication device.

He clarified, “I am not making a ‘credible threat’ nor do I intend to ‘place any person in reasonable fear for his or her safety.’”

E-mail the author at biancaconsunji@yahoo.com


Friday, November 14, 2008

Paget's Disease (a re-post from miss Love Anover's Site)

REAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD AND PASS~~~

Paget's Disease: This is a rare form of breast cancer, and is on the outside of the breast, on the nipple and aureole. It appeared as a rash, which later became a lesion with a crusty outer edge. I would not have ever suspected it to be breast cancer but it was. My nipple never seemed any different to me, but the rash bothered me, so I went to the doctor for that. Sometimes, it itched and was sore, but other than that it didn't bother me. It was just ugly and a nuisance, and could not be cleared up with all the creams prescribed by my doctor and dermatologist for the dermatitis on my eyes just prior to this outbreak. They seemed a little concerned but did not warn me it could be cancerous.
Now, I suspect not many women out there know a lesion or rash on the nipple or aureole can be breastcancer. (Mine started out as a single red pimple on the aureole. One of the biGgest problems with Paget's disease of the nipple is that the symptoms appear to be harmless. It is frequently thought to be a skin inflammation or infection, leading to unfortunate delays in detection and care.)

What are the symptoms?

1. A persistent redness, oozing, and crusting of your nipple causing it to itch and burn (As I stated, mine did not itch or burn much, and had no oozing I was aware of, but it did have a crust along the outer edge on one side.)

2. A sore on your nipple that will not heal. (Mine was on the aureole area with a whitish thick looking area in center of nipple).

3. Usually only one nipple is effected. How is it diagnosed? Your doctor will do a physical exam and would suggest having a mammogram of both breasts, done immediately. Even though the redness, oozing and crusting closely resemble dermatitis (inflammation of the skin), your doctor should suspect cancer if the sore is only on one breast. Your doctor should order a biopsy of your sore to confirm what is going on.

This message should be taken seriously and passed on to as many of your relatives and friends as possible; it could save someone's life.

My breast cancer has spread and metastasized to my bones after receiving mega doses of chemotherapy, 28 treatments of radiation and taking Tamaxofin. If this had been diagnosed as breast cancer in the beginning, perhaps it would not have spread...

TO ALL READERS:

This is sad as women are not aware of Paget's disease. If, by passing this around on the e-mail, we can make others aware of it and its potential danger, we are helping women everywhere.

Please, if you can, take a moment to forward this message to as many people as possible, especially to your family and friends. It only takes a moment, yet the results could save a life.

Saturday, November 8, 2008

my story at Moms and Kids Mag November 2008 Issue

I have written a blog about my story of becoming a single parent. It was Christine who first informed me about this Magazine asking for "single moms/dads' stories".. At first i was hesitant.. I don't feel writing at all.. I don't have the passion that time to write.. I am not driven after all.. But then came the last day of submission, i was able to compose a good blog. Am not a good writer, not even gifted to be one.. But here's the good news, i got lucky it was included in the November issue of the Moms and Kids Magazine..

for those who doesn't know anything about me at all, here's the summarized story about how i became a single parent and why Mikyla Yzabel doesn't have her dad.
Hi Moms & Kids Magazine!!l
greetings in the name of our Lord.

I just happen to see your post at the multiply site aboout having a topic regarding single parenthood.
And i just got this feeling the want to share with you guys my story..a single parent by fate and not by choice.

im 24 when i got pregnant with my daughter. My boyfriend/lover was my online boyfriend. (We met at the internet,-mIRC).
our relationship went further beyond the cyber world. We met, we dated for a while and after sometime i got pregnant with my daughter.
my parents was not really in favor of him..he was unemployed that time,and actually during the whole nine months of pregnancy, we weren't able to see each other for i am being retrained to do so, parents are so mad that my father could kill if he saw him during those times..

but things have changed when yzabel was born. Zeus(my boyfriend) dared to visit us at home to see his daughter, not fearing what might happen if my father will see him.. but things went out just fine after they all talked..and from then on, things went on smoothly for us, for our "family" .. but then, hindi lahat ng oras eh masaya.. after yzabel was baptized, Zeus was hospitalized and was diagnosed with heart enlargement.. at first we all thought it's gonna be ok, but for some serious health problem, it got worse, and in no time December 2006 he died, 7 months after our daughter was born. i was at shock for about a month.. being a first time mom is not that easy much so being alone/single. School was not great for me then(for i am a law student and at the same time a mother).. it was really hard.. losing a lover, a partner and a friend all at the same time.. Hinanakit ko sa Diyos that time was, baket kung kelan pa OK na ang lahat lahat sa amin.. but God has purpose. although hard to accept, He knows best still..

it was really a tragedy for me. the worse thing i could ever imagined just had happened.. and brought me so many fears..questions like, what will i do with yzabel, ALONE? will i be a good mother and father all in one. How can i provide for her needs/wants. What will i tell her when she asks where's her daddy.. Things are easy for those couples who just separated, at the least parents are both alive and can be present at all important events of the child's life. Until now am jealous of those babies/kids with complete set of parents. they get to enjoy each parent's company..

as time goes by, nasanay na din ako na wala si Zeus sa tabi ko.. i was able to upbring yzabel with the help of both my parents and Zeus' parents. i was able to survive all the ups and downs of being a single mom.. and in fact, am so glad and so thankful that yzabel have been so sweet and nice and loving to me..she reminds me of her dad each time i look at her eyes.. she have grown so fast, she's healthy and smart. i thank God that despite of all those hardships and pain from the past He still gives me all the wonderful blessings.. i could not ask for more..

and now, am trying to make a living while studying.. i worked as a freelance photographer and i have a sideline online business that provides party needs.. thanks for the opportunity to look back again with a smile..


for the whole issue preview
click here!!



Included also in the mag were Sidney Castaneda, Ram Symon Orquiza,Mommy Rhederlee (mariam's mom) and Villestas Family.. hehehe sila lang medyo narecognize ko.. ^_^

Friday, November 7, 2008

CONTACT DELETION!

.. sorry if i have deleted you.. i just feel you're not really significant to be one of my contacts..

.. harsh na kung harsh.. but i want QUALITY and never the QUANTITY..

.. ayoko ng mga contacts na ni hindi ko nman tlaga kilala.. nor online store na hindi ko nman mapakinabangan in the future..

.. i also hate those nosey contacts.. makikisilip lang then good bye! i mean i don't need them in a way that am not learning anything from them..

.. ayoko sa dko kilala (personally or via the net)..

.. THIS IS FINAL. IF YOU LATER ON FOUND OUT NA YOU'RE ONE OF THOSE WHO GOT DELETED. PLEASE DON'T ADD ME UP AGAIN.. thanks!